Psychologists suggest there are five stages of love - butterflies, building, assimilation, honesty and stabilityĪs the initial attraction gives way to learning more about one another, the honeymoon stage subsides and a couple begin to build their relationship.ĮHarmony's study estimated around three per cent of Britons in relationship are currently at stage two. On the other hand, Professor Human noted, it could just as well be that people who are generally perceived more accurately - and are thus better understood by their peers - come to experience greater well-being as a result. In their previous work, the team explained, they had found evidence that this was true in more platonic social settings. 'Perhaps people that have greater well-being behave in ways that are more in line with their personality - being more authentic or true to themselves,' said paper author and psychologist Lauren Human, also of McGill.
The reason for this, the team suggest, could be that some people are better at effective self-presentation. 'Strikingly, people who report higher well-being, self-esteem, and satisfaction with life tend to make the task easier,' she added. 'Some people are open books whose distinctive personalities can be accurately perceived after a brief interaction, whereas others are harder to read,' said paper author and psychologist Lauren Gazzard Kerr of McGill University. They have come to the conclusion that it is, although the task may be harder than in a more casual social setting. However, the team wanted to see if this was still possible in higher-stakes situations like first dates, where impressions are key for deciding whether to pursue romance. Previous work found people can quickly form accurate impressions of strangers in platonic settings, like when striking up conversation with a new classmate. However, the researchers are not sure whether people who are happier in life are more authentic, or whether being understood leads to a sense of satisfaction. The team found that, generally, people could get an accurate picture of their date within that time, but that those who felt greater well-being were easier to read. Researchers from Canada invited 372 volunteers to take part in speed dating events, with the daters rating each other's personalities after each three-minute session. First impressions are the most lasting, so the proverb goes, and scientists have found that mere minutes may be all the time you have to leave a favourable one.
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